Indore: A discussion took place where Child & Clinical Psychologist Dr. Vini Jhariya , Director of Urjasvini Special School shared her views on recently announced results.
Riya, a bright and curious 15-year-old, walked out of her room, her face pale. She had just seen her board exam results. Her marks were not what she expected. Her parents didn’t say much — but their silence was heavier than words. Like Riya, millions of children across India today are facing the same question: “Are my marks enough?”
Here’s the truth: Your marks are just numbers — not your identity.
HOW TO ACCEPT RESULTS – WITH STRENGTH, NOT SHAME
When results fall short of expectations, it can feel like a failure. But it is not. It’s feedback — a reflection of academic performance, not your worth.
In India, over 3.5 crore students appear for board exams each year, but not all shine through the same grading lens. Does that mean the rest won’t succeed? Absolutely not. Research shows that emotional intelligence, adaptability, communication skills, and creative thinking are stronger predictors of long-term success than academic scores.
WHAT PARENTS CAN DO (AND AVOID)
Parents, your reaction sets the tone. Your support in this moment matters more than your child’s scorecard.
Replace blame with empathy: Instead of asking “Why didn’t you score more?”, ask “How are you feeling?”
Don’t link love with marks: Children must feel that they are loved regardless of their performance.
Focus on future skills: Encourage curiosity, problem-solving, and creativity — skills that can’t be measured on a marksheet.
FOR STUDENTS: THIS IS NOT THE END
If your results are disappointing, remember: You have every right to feel upset — just don’t stay stuck there.
Feel, then move forward: Allow yourself to feel. But don’t let one exam define your belief in yourself.
Plan your next step: Seek guidance, explore alternate streams, or enroll in a skill-building program.
Remember your worth: You are more than a percentage. The world needs thinkers, creators, helpers, builders — not just toppers.
